The Way Forward…
Jonathan Merritt shared a recent picture and powerful story, an example of, what I call “The Way”.
Jonathan shared, “People often ask me how in the world I maintain a close relationship with my dad. I’m a progressive gay man, and as many of you know, he is a Southern Baptist preacher who describes himself as “to the right of Ronald Reagan. These days, you can score a lot of likes on social media by posting about the people you’ve bravely severed from your life—problematic parents, snarky siblings, catty childhood friends. (In severe cases, this may be a necessary step. But in this age of “going no contact,” my dad and I have chosen another, harder path. We’ve chosen to stay and stick it out, and learn to love across difference. Yes, we still establish healthy boundaries, but we are more focused on how we can build BRIDGES TO each other than BARRIERS FROM each other. The truth is, this hasn’t been easy. It’s been one of the toughest things—I cannot emphasize this enough—I’ve done in my four decades of living. We disagree on a lot politically and theologically. A LOT. We often joke that some of our disagreements could peel paint off the walls. But working to stay in relationship has taught us so many wonderful truths…
We have learned that it’s impossible to love someone when you’re constantly trying to change who they are—and that this works both ways.
We have learned that the people who will cry at your funeral matter, and the critics in your social media feeds do not.
And most of all, we have learned that loving across difference is messy and difficult, but in this case, it’s worth it.
Last week, I was able to sit on a stage with my dad—for the first time since being publicly outed in 2012—as we shared these lessons with hundreds of pastors. If more people were willing to learn the spiritual practice of “loving across difference,” I think our coarse-edged world might become a gentler, kinder, more hospitable place for all of us.”
Something early Jewish Christians were known as, “The Way”.
And this is the way forward for followers of Christ who have experienced the toxicity of “us vs. them”, of legalism, fundamentalism, and political idolatry. We are bridge builders. We love unconditionally. We seek to find common ground. And we know this type of love, meeting and embracing each other in the tension, is only found in Christ.
It’s why we only have one belief statement at Seeds and Water Collective: Jesus is Lord. That’s it.
Whatever you think might exclude you from His embrace...don’t. It won’t. Everyone has a seat at His table. Consider Seeds and Water your servant, pulling out a chair so you’ll join us in Communion together with Christ.